Letter: Marriage is about love and commitmentWilliam David Farrar has it exactly backwards (RE, Aug. 8): it is about love and if two people wish to commit themselves to each other in civil marriage in Minnesota, who am I or who is anyone else to say they should not?
By: Michael Anderson, The Republican Eagle
To the Editor:
William David Farrar has it exactly backwards (RE, Aug. 8): it is about love and if two people wish to commit themselves to each other in civil marriage in Minnesota, who am I or who is anyone else to say they should not?
Marriage is about establishing the family unit? Who says gays and lesbians are not a family unit?
Marriage is about having and raising children? What about couples who chose not to have children or marry late in life? Is their marriage without worth, unworthy of respect or recognition by the state?
Marriage is a blessed sacrament from God? Hold up a minute. No one is talking about sacramental marriage. This is civil marriage with a license bought and paid for at the courthouse.
Keep your sacramental marriage sacred. Practice it as you will without others passing a constitutional amendment preventing you from doing so or denying you the right to petition your elected representatives for statutory change.
And speaking of sacramental marriage, how are opposite-sex marriages doing these days? Last time I checked, the divorce rate was 50 percent. I know. I was divorced, and fortunately remarried, but frankly, us straight people aren’t doing a very good job with marriage, are we? I’m betting gays and lesbians will do as well or better.
History teaches us that if you are an unfavored minority, gay, lesbian, Jewish, some people will burn your house down, string you up to a barb wire fence, hang you or, at the very least, pass laws saying you can’t vote, own property or marry outside your caste. The arguments raised against same-sex marriage are the same ones raised against inter-racial marriage before the civil rights movement.
This vote is not about sex or even marriage, really. It’s about love and how two people commit to it in their public life. Do Minnesotans really want to write into their Constitution a prohibition on marriage as a witness to love? Don’t we need more love and commitment, not less?
Farrar is right about one thing: Those of us who oppose this amendment are just asking you to be nice. Treat others as you would like to be treated.
Michael D. Anderson is a physician, the father of six sons, and member of the Council of the Baptized, a Catholic reform organization. He co-authored the council’s position paper opposing the Minnesota Marriage Amendment.